Letting Go of Toxic People : PACER Integrated Behavioral Health Quickstart Guide<br />Live discussion with Dr. Dawn Elise Snipes on coping with anxiety and depression and other physical and mental illnesses with an integrative behavioral health approach . (#toxicpeople #relationshipadvice #attachment )<br /><br />Please LIKE, SHARE, SUBSCRIBE and click the BELL to be notified when we release new videos and when Dr. Dawn Elise Snipes is going live each month. Access additional benefits by JOINING here <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAE3JJi8tX7gfhZEXCUGd_A/join" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAE3JJi8tX7gfhZEXCUGd_A/join</a><br />A toxic relationships is one that is “very harmful or unpleasant in a pervasive or insidious way.”<br />Cookie metaphor<br />Toxic behaviors<br />Inconsistency<br />Unresponsiveness<br />Inattention<br />Lack of validation<br />Self-centeredness<br /><br /><br />Lack of support<br />Gaslighting<br />Controlling<br />Dishonesty<br /><br />Allow yourself to grieve the loss of the person and the illusion<br />The toxic person is not willing to change or is not able to be the person you want them to be… (Their stuff not you)<br />Begin the detox process<br />Admit you are powerless over this person and with them in it, your life had become unmanageable<br />Make a list of all of the ways that person negatively impacts your life (PACER)<br />Identify the ways the person positively influenced your life or what they provided and other ways to meet that need (Maslow)<br /><br /><br />Block the person from your life to prevent random reinforcement (social media, phone, text) <br />Have a plan for dealing with inevitable contact<br />Be prepared for the craving/extinction burst, selective memories (the good ones), rationalization and self blame<br />Develop distress tolerance skills to deal with the craving<br />Practice PACER prevention and mindfulness<br />Write a letter to the person saying goodbye*<br />CRAVES<br />Consistency<br />Responsiveness<br />Attention<br />Validation<br />Encouragement<br />Support<br /><br /><br /><br />HACKER<br />Honesty<br />Awareness <br />Communication <br />Kindness <br />Emotional Intelligence<br />Respect<br />...<br /><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PoOpk48Tdn8" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PoOpk48Tdn8</a>